Both times he never (to this day) has offered any sort of explanation other than ‘I don’t know’, which makes me furious beyond belief. He told me when he was in the process of breaking up with me that he wasn’t attracted to me anymore, which came as a complete shock to his friends (and everyone else for that matter). He’s always ‘tired’ and we go for three and longer week periods of time without being intimate. He’s also a liar. I don’t date people who smoke marijuana and despite promising me he wouldn’t, he has done it at least three times since we’ve been dating that I know of.
I can’t get him to open up, when he breaks up with me he gets extremely upset and remorseful, and you couldn’t make him tell the truth if his life depended on it. He’s not a bad person at all, but dating him is like dating a child!
Another thing is, he has been in college for two years and hasn’t yet picked a serious major, which extremely frustrates me. He constantly flip-flops from thing to thing as far as job plans go, and they are all things that are unsecure, like being a music producer or a rock star. YES, A ROCK STAR. He’s 19 years old doesn’t seem to get the concept of having a sound career choice before pursuing more iffy passions. I cannot and will not marry somebody who doesn’t appear to have a real future ahead of them. He’s extremely unmotivated in general.
We never have sex and rarely go out. I love him very deeply but the relationship has flat-lined and has been that way for a few months. Within the last month I have next to totally lost all sexual attraction to him (he hasn’t gained weight or anything). I don’t know what I should do, because frankly I’m tired of living like a nun and ‘talking it out’ with him does absolutely no good. He’s my best friend and I love him with all my heart, but I just don’t think there is a spark to our relationship anymore.
Should I continue trying to work with this guy or should I just walk away? ~Tired of The Runaround~
Dear TTR: Why are you dating this guy much less engaged to him?
- You’re not intimate (and apparently not attracted to each other)
- He keeps breaking up with you (although it hasn’t “stuck” yet)
- He lacks job focus and ambition (which are apparently important to you)
- He’s smoking weed (which is apparently a deal-breaker for you)
